vol.12 / english/polskie
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March 12th 2021




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Höfundar
  • Elínborg Harpa
  • Elinóra Guðmundsdóttir
  • Hildur Hjörvar
  • Lenya Rún Taha Karim
  • Eva Sigurðardóttir
  • Berglind Brá Jóhannsdóttir
  • Gyða Guðmundsdóttir
  • Steinunn Ólína Hafliðadóttir
  • Tinna Eik Rakelardóttir
  • Alda Lilja
  • Aldís Amah Hamilton
  • Alex Louka
  • Alexandra Dögg Steinþórsdóttir
  • Allsber
  • Alma Dóra Ríkarðsdóttir
  • Amanda Líf Fritzdóttir
  • Anna Helga Guðmundsdóttir
  • Anna Kristín Shumeeva
  • Anna Margrét Árnadóttir
  • Anna Stína Eyjólfsdóttir
  • Antirasistarnir
  • Ari Logn
  • Armando Garcia Teixeira
  • Ármann Garðar Teitsson, Derek T. Allen og Jonathan Wood
  • Ásbjörn Erlingsson
  • Ásgerður Heimisdóttir
  • Áslaug Vanessa Ólafsdóttir
  • Áslaug Ýr Hjartardóttir
  • Bergrún Adda Pálsdóttir
  • Bergrún Andradóttir
  • Birgitta Þórey Rúnarsdóttir
  • Birtingarmyndir
  • Bjargey Ólafsdóttir
  • Björgheiður Margrét Helgadóttir
  • Brynhildur Yrsa Valkyrja
  • Carmen og Neyta
  • Chanel Björk Sturludóttir
  • Daisy Wakefield
  • Derek T. Allen
  • Díana Katrín Þorsteinsdóttir
  • Díana Sjöfn Jóhannsdóttir
  • Donna Cruz
  • Elín Dögg Baldvinsdóttir
  • Elinóra Inga Sigurðardóttir
  • Elísabet Brynjarsdóttir
  • Elísabet Dröfn Kristjánsdóttir
  • Elísabet Rún
  • Embla Guðrúnar Ágústsdóttir
  • Eva Huld
  • Eva Lín Vilhjálmsdóttir
  • Eva Örk Árnadóttir Hafstein
  • Eydís Blöndal
  • Eyja Orradóttir
  • Fidas Pinto
  • Flokk till you drop
  • Freyja Haraldsdóttir
  • Glóey Þóra Eyjólfsdóttir
  • Guðný Guðmundsdóttir
  • Guðrún Svavarsdóttir
  • Gunnhildur Þórðardóttir
  • Halla Birgisdóttir
  • Halla Birgisdóttir, Viktoría Birgisdóttir og Gróa Rán Birgisdóttir
  • Harpa Rún Kristjánsdóttir
  • Heiða Dögg
  • Heiða Vigdís Sigfúsdóttir
  • Heiðdís Buzgò
  • Heiðrún Bjarnadóttir
  • Helga Lind Mar
  • Herdís Hlíf Þorvaldsdóttir
  • Hjördís Lára Hlíðberg
  • Hólmfríður María Bjarnardóttir
  • Hulda Sif Ásmundsdóttir
  • Indíana Rós
  • Inga Björk Margrétar Bjarnadóttir
  • Inga Hrönn Sigrúnardóttir
  • Ingibjörg Ruth Gulin
  • Io Alexa Sivertsen
  • Iona Sjöfn
  • Íris Ösp Sveinbjörnsdóttir
  • Isabel Alejandra Díaz
  • Ísold Halldórudóttir
  • Joav Devi
  • Johanna Van Schalkwyk
  • Jóna Kristjana Hólmgeirsdóttir
  • Jóna Þórey Pétursdóttir
  • Jonathan Wood og Nökkvi A.R. Jónsson
  • Karitas Mörtudóttir Bjarkadóttir
  • Karitas Sigvalda
  • Klara Óðinsdóttir
  • Klara Rosatti
  • Kona er nefnd
  • Kristín Hulda Gísladóttir
  • Kristrún Ásta Arnfinnsdóttir
  • Lára Kristín Sturludóttir
  • Lára Sigurðardóttir
  • Lilja Björk Jökulsdóttir
  • Linni / Pauline Kwast
  • Magnea Þuríður
  • Margeir Haraldsson
  • María Ólafsdóttir
  • Mars Proppé
  • Miriam Petra
  • Nadine Gaurino
  • Natan Jónsson
  • Nichole Leigh Mosty
  • Ólöf Rún Benediktsdóttir
  • Perla Hafþórsdóttir
  • Ragnar Freyr
  • Ragnhildur Þrastardóttir
  • Rakel Glytta Brandt
  • Rauða Regnhlífin
  • Rebekka Sif Stefánsdóttir
  • Rouley
  • Sanna Magdalena Mörtudóttir
  • Sara Höskuldsdóttir
  • Sara Mansour
  • Sarkany
  • Sema Erla Serdar
  • Sigrún Alua Ásgeirsdóttir
  • Sigrún Björnsdóttir
  • Sigrún Skaftadóttir
  • Sigurbjörg Björnsdóttir
  • Silja Björk
  • Silla Berg
  • Sjöfn Hauksdóttir
  • Sóla Þorsteinsdóttir
  • Sóley Hafsteinsdóttir
  • Sóley Tómasdóttir
  • Sólveig Daðadóttir
  • Stefanía dóttir Páls
  • Stefanía Emils
  • Steinunn Ása Sigurðardóttir
  • Steinunn Bragadóttir
  • Steinunn Radha
  • Steinunn Ýr Einarsdóttir
  • Sunna Ben
  • Sunneva Kristín Sigurðardóttir
  • Sylvía Jónsdóttir
  • Tara Margrét Vilhjálmsdóttir
  • Tayla Hassan
  • Theodóra Listalín
  • Tinna Haraldsdóttir
  • Una Hallgrímsdóttir
  • Ungar Athafnakonur / UAK
  • Unnur Gísladóttir
  • Valgerður Valur Hirst Baldurs
  • Vigdís Hafliðadóttir
  • Viktoría Birgisdóttir
  • William Divinagracia
  • Wincie Jóhannsdóttir
  • Ylfa Dögg Árnadóttir
  • Þorsteinn V. Einarsson
  • Þuríður Anna Sigurðardóttir






  • Thoughts about queerness and role-models

    (note: in Icelandic language “fyrir” is the prefix to “rolemodel” – fyrir-mynd, and refers to being in front of something. “Fyrir” also is used in what is in the way, and also what happens before, so this article plays with this multiple meanings of the word. This article has been adjusted to get a similar meaning across, but the word play is lost.)

    I wish that I could be a role model, whether it would be a role model for others or merely my own. The only role I could play would be the “before” part of a before-and-after photograph for a new fat diet, portraying the fattie no one wants to be. The after photo would need to be photo morphed into a totally different body, to be able to lie about some achievement that society has decided makes one worthy of their spotlight.

    With some thought-olympics I could perhaps see myself as a role model. My fat, queer, neurodivergent body. But what would the sacrifices have to be? To reflect my current state with the social acceptability that I am striving for: the person that I have yet to become, later. Racing with myself, to become better — but most importantly, like others. Prove to myself to others, and myself, that all my faults are surmountable. Owning a picture of my past self, to show others how much I have improved. Forbid the warm thoughts towards my past self, forcing myself even further forward, to be better. Dismiss the speculation that at this moment, we are doing fine, except in the context that we are a bit better now compared to how we used to be. Underlying messages about that our best version is yet to come, thus we can not love ourself, yet.

    Maybe when I have finished my education, maybe when I buy a house, maybe when I have children or a spouse. Maybe then, I’ll be happy. Maybe. There is always that one thing that is holding us back. Just this itsy little thing, before I will become my best self. Happy.




    The goal of seeking happiness with material, goods and worldly achievements. The goals with a “before and after” stories: “lost 100 pounds and found love”, “discovered themselves in the role of motherhood”, “graduated as summa cum laude and got the dream job”. Those people are our role models, the ones that lived happily ever after. The aftermath of that frozen point of their life never reaches the surface: what were the sacrifices that were made. The perfect life, it has to be. Thus I go on with my life, trying to fit into their mould, like Cindarella’s sisters cutting off their toes in order to capture Prince Charming.

    Satisfied people do not buy themselves anything (icelandic. “Sátt manneskja kaupir sér ekki neitt”1), the market works hard towards making us unhappy with ourselves in order to sell us their products. The products aren’t just products we can buy, but an image of the person that we long to be, and could become, with the help of their product.

    Our public spaces are covered with repeated messages, commercials, on how we can improve ourselves with their products, grand gestures implying that we are not enough, at the moment. The reason for these messages are not complicated: making people unhappy about themselves drives consumption up, enormous numbers, especially if the products being sold promise you happiness. The turnover of the diet industry alone runs on millions, whether it being called a juice cleanse, keto or a lifestyle change. The same forces can be applied to other industries, profiting on making you, the consumer, insecure, whether it be your parenting skills, doubting your looks, how funny your are or if you are clever enough. The messages constantly echo around us and grow roots deep into the society. Our thoughts begin to revolve around how to improve.




    The most radical thing that I can imagine doing to fight back, is to aim towards becoming satisfied with myself.. To allow my body and mind to develop in a natural flow. My only goal is to become content with myself, by myself, in all my glory. To love myself and how I was and how I will become all alike. But most importantly to love myself as I am, now.



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    1 Ragna B. Garðarsdóttir – www.ruv.is/frett/satt-manneskja-kaupir-ser-ekki-neitt og www.ums.is/leitin-ad-peningunum/hladvorp/satt-manneskja-kaupir-ser-ekki-neitt-ragna-benedikta-gardarsdottir



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    The author is a master of Social Psychology and future ceramist.














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    Afterthought